Oh hi :) Hmmm...things that made me happy recently: my roommates birthday (I love other people's birthdays and hate my own), being able to drive again today after surgery! and lastly, buying christmas gifts. I hate being broke but I LOVE to buy gifts.
One of the most valuable things I've learned in the past year or so is how different people and situations play a role in my life. You decide how much someone knows about you; you decide how large a role something or someone plays in your life. You are in control of how many cards in your hand that person or thing deserves.
For a long time, I thought everyone had to be my best friend, that I should open up to anyone who wanted me to. I would have a hobby or be involved in something and I would make it my life. I dedicated all my time to it and all my energy into trying to become closer to other people. Someone very important to me used an analogy that really stuck: you have a hand of cards, say 7. Some people you show 3 to, some 6. Some parts of your life you give 2 to, some 4. Learning to judge the # of cards each thing and person get is learned. First I learned how to do it with people; every person I met does not need to know my feelings and thoughts about everything. People come into my life for a reason, not always to be there forever. With this outlook, I have ended up with some of the best friends I've ever had and some of the most fun I've ever had. It's the same with Crossfit. It's a stretch, but when I got injured I realized I had given Crossfit all 7 cards, put everything into it. And when it was gone, I started to realize other parts of my life I neglected. For one, my mental health. And I'm not saying it's bad to be dedicated and committed to something or someone, but it's learning the balance of your life and who you are. Make the most of your life. Accept people for what they are in your life. Give energy to the things and people that enrich your life.
I realize I'm not explaining this well, but it was worth the try :)
For a long time, I thought everyone had to be my best friend, that I should open up to anyone who wanted me to. I would have a hobby or be involved in something and I would make it my life. I dedicated all my time to it and all my energy into trying to become closer to other people. Someone very important to me used an analogy that really stuck: you have a hand of cards, say 7. Some people you show 3 to, some 6. Some parts of your life you give 2 to, some 4. Learning to judge the # of cards each thing and person get is learned. First I learned how to do it with people; every person I met does not need to know my feelings and thoughts about everything. People come into my life for a reason, not always to be there forever. With this outlook, I have ended up with some of the best friends I've ever had and some of the most fun I've ever had. It's the same with Crossfit. It's a stretch, but when I got injured I realized I had given Crossfit all 7 cards, put everything into it. And when it was gone, I started to realize other parts of my life I neglected. For one, my mental health. And I'm not saying it's bad to be dedicated and committed to something or someone, but it's learning the balance of your life and who you are. Make the most of your life. Accept people for what they are in your life. Give energy to the things and people that enrich your life.
I realize I'm not explaining this well, but it was worth the try :)
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