Things that have made me happy in the past two days: Frank and getting to meet his beautiful daughter, getting to see my best friend Kelsey for the first time in months and Christmastime!
Who cares? Last week I had a conversation with my roommate and one of her friends about not caring about what people think. We spoke about what is running through our heads when we get dressed to go out or go to work etc. I can 100% say I dress (and do a lot of other things) only for me. Not once does it cross my mind when I'm picking an outfit or doing my hair or makeup that I hope someone likes how I look or what if this person doesnt like how I look. I try and look good so I can feel good. It is instinct for humans to want approval from other people, to get reassured that we are "pretty" or smart or funny. To feel important. But can you #1 really rely on other people's opinion of you, it is so subjective and #2 your self-worth and security in who you are will be a roller coaster ride if you are always trying to impress someone or prove that you are something.
You are the only one who has to see and be with yourself every single day of your life. You have to learn to approve of yourself and the rest will follow. The confidence and security you exude will not only attract people to you, but it will be for the right reasons. Life will reward you in ways you arent even expecting. Take crossfit for example: if you go into a WOD trying to look good for someone or finish a workout first just so someone notices you, you will never improve. You have to walk in there and be one with the barbell. No, I'm kidding...you have to push through those 100 burpees and feel good about you and what you did. You can only achieve as much and be as much as you allow yourself.
So look in the mirror and learn to love what you see, no one else is going to do it for you.
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